... and then you will feel guilty when she is cleaning your house; so you try to get it done, but at the same time you keep thinking, "if I just wait, I won't have to do it at all," and then you realize this is the danger of being supermom who can fix anything- they grow up and still half think you can fix all their problems (at least housecleaning ones)-
...and worry your kids will feel the same way and you will be going to their houses and cleaning the rest of your life,
...but then think maybe that isn't a bad thing, but that is really rationalization so you don't feel bad when your mom comes next week and does it?
Me neither.
So, anyway, I'm cleaning up all day today (and tomorrow).
Wish me luck.
My sister was complaining the other day about 7-ish loads of laundry that needed folding. I just told her to do what I do: schedule a doctor's appointment for the baby; ask Mom to babysit; place full baskets of laundry strategically so she will see them and fold them while the other kids watch a movie. Voila! Laundry is folded.
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LOL I am laughing about InkMom's comment and your dilemma. I would see this as the great circle of life. Your kids will do it to you. It's the pattern of things. Just like I will eventually have to pay for my grandkids at restaurants, and so on.
ReplyDeleteOh yes. And my children have caught on. Once my parents were coming to visit and I was trying to get my daughter to clean up her room, and she said, "It's okay, Mamah will clean it up when she gets here."
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Since I only have boys, I can't even imagine going to their homes and cleaning up. Is there a worse way to directly slam a daughter-in-law! Yikes!
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your cleaning.
Still coming out next week for CBC? I will be there too.
ok So I thought I was the only one with this problem lol My mom even brings her own cleaning supplies. I do appreciate it somtimes but it makes me feel like I am horrible at cleaning myself.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure your mom totally doesn't mind, though! I'd love it if my mom lived closer and came to clean my house... although I would be embarrassed to have her clean the toilet.
ReplyDeleteI usually wait to clean my house until I absolutely have to. But after it's done it's always nice! So enjoy the clean house when it's done... well, until the kids make it a disaster again an hour late... which is what happens to me!
LUCK
ReplyDeleteMy mom does clean but she rallies the troops to do it with her. Last time she was here my 3yo son sighed, "Grandma makes me work hard." ☺
LOL, you're so awesome.
ReplyDeleteGood luck!
In the 12 years since I left home my mother has helped me clean my house twice. If I thought she would come and clean I have to say I'd let her. Maybe it's a good thing that she never does. On the second thought, do I ever wish she would.
ReplyDeleteSince my husband wasn't raised with the same mother we were, I am thus forced to spotlessly clean every square inch of our home before Mom comes. Have fun at your conference.
ReplyDeleteAs a Granma, I can tell you, we don't mind an occasional basket of laundry, loading the dishwasher or running the vacuum, and we can usually do it while the baby is awake and the momma is napping. That's what makes Granma's so freaking awesome!! lol
ReplyDeleteI love coming to your house clean or dirty. I really don't mind doing the mom things, cleaning, laundry etc. I just love being with your kids the spark energy, love and life into me. I can't wait to visit so don't stress out because of me.
ReplyDeleteGood luck! (except I know that you are already done...I'm not a stalker...just a faithful twitter follower!) You are SO lucky that your mom comes to your house & will help with what she can while she's there! I grew up in a home that wasn't very clean (which is why I'm such a psycho now!) & a mom I'm not close to. No matter how messy your house is...you are so lucky!
ReplyDeleteThis just made me panic a bit because I realize how desperately I need to spring clean my house!! Blech, blech, blech.
ReplyDeleteIt's like we have to prove to everyone how together our lives are by how clean our houses are, even though one second after they arrive at our house it's a mess again! (Is that a long enough run-on sentence for you?)
ReplyDeleteMy mom lives nearby. She is just itching to come over and nail up all my pictures, anywhere and everywhere. But I need to mull it over like for a few more years...
I like to use all our clothes, eat off of every single dish, and make sure the bathroom, kitchen, and living room are disaster areas before my mother comes into town. Maybe that's why she has only come for one birth.
ReplyDeleteAt least I'm not the only one! There have been a few times I've begged my Mom or Clint's to clean something for me, because it was just too gross! (Remember how dirty I said our house was on my blog when I bought it?)
ReplyDeleteI have simply come to accept that I can't maintain a clean house the way I would like to and still keep up with all my kids' activities, my Church calling, and time for me and Kent. I love InkMom's strategy. I have unwittingly followed that plan when my mom comes, and I am always grateful for the extra hand she gives to catch up on housework. She is also very nice to come when I am sick with flu or strep throat or the like. I think she enjoys taking care of me in that way still, and it always lifts my spirit too.
ReplyDeleteYour posts always make me smile, Charlotte. Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteThat's it... I am borrowing your Mom. My Mom would come over... look at my mess... then call all my siblings and gossip about it.
ReplyDeleteAnd I see absolutely nothing wrong with run on sentences... I mean they make the world go round and round... remember when they thought the world was flat... now that was weird... but not as weird as llama spit.
I sorta wish my mom would come and clean my house, but more so I wish she didn't have to, that I could stay on top of it all better, but wishing isn't gonna make that happen so I'd better get up and get moving and get something done around here...
ReplyDeleteHope you're having a nice time!
ReplyDeletemy sister thinks i'm too hard on my kids to clean and make sure it's done perfectly. will this backfire on me in the future? probably. do i care? no. i'm only held accountable for them until they're 18...i can hold down the fort for that long.
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