Wednesday, June 16, 2010

I Run So You Can Fly

I remember now why I only do friend parties every four years.  I tend to go a slight bit overboard.  The last week filled itself with googling ideas, running to 5000 stores to see if they have what I need, sewing, cutting, glue gunning, and (truth be told) a whole lot of talking to myself out loud as I figure out how to do what I want.

On top of that, there is the normal end of school year activities, preschool, extra trips to school to drop off forgotten items and various other regular-life-with-six-children running around.


In short, I've been running myself exhausted for the last week.

One day, after getting home from several errands, I found myself with an entire spare half hour before the school bus started dropping off children.  I settled onto the couch to relax, but it wasn't long before Matthew climbed on my lap and asked me to let him play on the beach.  Now "let me play on the beach" is code for "play with me on the beach."  Being ever so tired, I at first refused.  Then I remembered that running all these errands is doubly tiring and boring for a (almost) 4 year old.  Thinking of the little jellyfish we'd made in preschool the day before, I suggested we take it for a walk.


In absolute glee, he accepted my offer and we headed outside.

 The slight wind took hold of the streamers as Matthew ran and the fish flew with abandon behind him.  "Mom, my jellyfish is flying!  I'm going to let go so it can fly into the sky." 

I explained to him that it could only fly because he was running so hard.  Without his work, the jellyfish would be a crumpled mess on the sand.

At that moment, I realized my running around was worth it.  I run so my kids can fly.

Magical childhoods don't just happen.  There is a lot of work that goes into making all those memories.  The kids remember highlights and enjoy the safety of their bubble. I maintain the bubble.  They don't see the effort behind taking them to the zoo, making dinner every night, providing the environment that allows them to flourish. 

But that is okay.  One day they will gain their own feet.  Then they must run to feel the wind on their face.  Right now I'm content to run for them, giving them time to fly.

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50 comments:

  1. That is such an eloquent way to put it. It makes me want to do even more with my kids for their memories!. I loved reading that!

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  2. You "maintain the bubble". I love it. Perfect.

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  3. I love, love this post. Beautifully written, Charlotte.

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  4. Such a great post Charlotte! I felt a twinge around my heart when I read it... the twinge I get when I know I am missing out by having not been blessed with children. It certainly sounds like you are doing the Mom thing right!

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  5. Wow. Perfectly expressed. Sometimes it is wearying, all this running, but in the end it is so worth it.

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  6. awesome post. almost made me a bit teary eyed thinking about my kids! >3

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  7. That was a great post. Will you please take a walk with me on the beach?

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  8. This was beautiful, Charlotte!

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  9. Excellent post, Charlotte. So very true, and something I always need to be reminded of.

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  10. Charlotte, that was beyond beautiful. Posts like this aren't just smile inducing, but sometimes even life altering. They teach people to look at life with a sweeter perspective. What a gift, to be able to write like that.

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  11. Oh, Charlotte, the versatility! I was expecting funny, and then, BOOM! A great spiritual lesson!

    This was wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

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  12. Beautiful! Thank you! Perfect timing too!

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  13. Aw, you're right, Charlotte! And we never know exactly which one of these memories will stick but they will. With my daughter blogging (a little faltering now!) it's funny to have her write about her favorite memories and see it was things I worked at, like you said, so she could fly.

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  14. Oh Charlotte, this was such a beautiful post. It really made me stop and think about the times I've said no to my son's request to play because I'm too tired. Thank you for the reminder that we create their magical childhood.

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  15. You put that so well... I often feel drained. But I know it is all for the best. I unfortunately am not as eloquent as you my friend!

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  16. So true. Glad you took time to play with Matthew. Looks like so much fun.

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  17. My mom always tell me she misses the running years. I try to remember that when I feel burned out. This was a beautiful post. Thanks.

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  18. Forget magical childhoods, you live that close to the beach??? I'll be right over with six more children!

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  19. Oh how I love this post! You put it so well...

    Thanks for your comment on my last post:) It's nice to know I am not the only one. haha!

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  20. So beautifully written and such a beautiful message. Thanks for reminding us to stop and pause.

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  21. great pics and great post! You're a good mama!

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  22. You are so right, and our children are so worth it. Great post!

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  23. What a wonderful mom you are - and such a great blogger, too!

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  24. Charlotte, I love this. I love how beautiful and wonderful and true it is. You gave me a lightbulb moment and I appreciate that. Thank you. (I'm featuring this today as my single shot, oh yes I am!)

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  25. Very nice post! I love the it!

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  26. Oh how I miss you kids. When do I get to come out and spend time with them again, I guess only time will tell. I at least get to have some time with them in July. I do so love your children.

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  27. This is such a beautiful post Charlotte! I love it! You are so very right!

    Thank you for the reminder!

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  28. Beautiful sentiment. And so true.

    I absolutely love it.

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  29. Fabulous post, Charlotte! I love moments of clarity like that and I'm especially glad that you shared your's with us, including the awesome pictures!

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  30. Wow. I literally got chills when I read that realization. What a beautiful post. Thank you.

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  31. Glad he ended up being okay with going!

    (and, thanks for the tip about the friends at parties...whew...exhausting.)

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  32. "I run so my kids can fly" is possibly the best description of parenting I've read. Lovely work.

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  33. What a wonderful posting! So touching. And I'll always remember, "I run so my children can fly." :)

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  34. I'm going to be printing this post & taping it up to the back of a cupboard. I love it so much that you took the time out to be with him. You are awesome. (missed you on twitter today!)

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  35. Wow! wow! Wow! What a beautiful way to describe motherhood. Thanks for the encouragement and reminder!!!

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  36. Oh, I love it! I love especially that it was a paper jellyfish that made you think this! Absolutely funny! And so profound. And just think, if you hadn't gotten yourself up off the couch, you wouldn't have had this tender moment with your son AND for yourself!

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  37. Wow-a whole half an hour! Great message and great Mommy! Hope the party paloozas go well!

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  38. Charlotte,, you rock as a mom. Seriously, thank you for the reminder

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  39. This is an amazing post. I love it so much. Thank you.

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  40. I love when deep moments come out of living life. So beautiful!

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  41. This was an amazing post. Thank you for sharing with us!

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  42. Charlotte, this is such an awesome and beautiful post. You are just amazing!!

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  43. Always a good reminder for why we moms do what we do.

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  44. Stopping by from The Adventure of Motherhood, and so glad I did. Brilliantly put! Thank you for reminding us!

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  45. I popped over from Chocolate on my Cranium after reading your post. This is beautiful!!!!! I will definitely come by again and read some more of your posts when I have time.

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